10 things that i learnt by the age of 19.



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1. You can hate those who hurts you. You have the right to do so despite any excuses they may give. Never blame yourself for not being 'good enough' for anyone. everyone has different standard of 'good enough' and you could never meed each and everyone's expectation. So, be you and be your own standard of 'good enough'.

2. You can love anyone that you want, but never for a second thinking that they would love you back. Some may, but not all of them. You cannot love everyone and not everyone will love you. But that doesn't make them nor you a bad person. I refuse to blame the people that cannot force themselves to give me the same amount of love and efforts that i gave them. I do not give to get back. I give because I want to and because I can.

3. One opinion out of millions does not define who you are. Never let one negative comment to brush off the positive ones. A masterpiece will always be a masterpiece even when the room is empty and the light is off. Just because people failed to acknowledge you, does not make you less valuable.

4. Never settle for the safe side. We tend to choose things that we are comfortable to and within our comfort zone instead of seeking for the heart pounding feelings and breath taking moments that make living our life, worth it. I never want it to be easy; I want it to be challenging and push myself to the limit when I decided to give something my all. I want to learn how to survive through that.

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5. Saying "no" would not make you a bad person. Learn how to say "no" without feeling guilty if it involves something that you are not comfortable with. Get use to saying no without having to explain your reason; simply because you refuse to. "No, i do not want to date you. No, i do not want to do this. No, i do not want to do that. because it does not make me happy and that does not make me comfortable. So, no. And i do not need to provide you a reason nor do i need to make up an excuse for saying "no". 
 
6. There are hundreds of millions of people in this world that you haven't yet to meet. don't always judge people and categorized them in groups. "Gay, Emo, Punk, Nerd". People are not meant to be labelled. Simply because one person hurts you does not mean the ones in the future will. Just because one person holds a knife does not mean they will use it. There is good out there; believe it or not, there is good in this mess up world and there is good in people. Not everyone is a monster

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7. Keep the past where it belong and stop give it powers to refrain you from what the future could offer you. Do not let the pain and hurt take over. Stop building walls within your heart just because you have been broken before. Never allow the demons of yesterday to control the beauty that is to come in the future. Vow to never allow it to always be stormy for the sun does eventually shine down on all things beautiful. I am beautiful, and so are you.

8. Never swim the ocean for people who would not even cross a puddle for you. Some people would not even step outside in the drizzle for you even if you hold the umbrella for them.

9. Never give someone enough power to get rid of yourself. Don not lose yourself because of people. we tend to change ourselves for others that at some point we barely recognize our own self. step in front of the mirror and ask the reflection that you see; "am I still me?"

10. Be with someone who you do not have to hide from, in any way. Whether it is your morning face before you have put your make up on, an embarrassing story to tell about something that happened on your way home, or an ambition you have had since you were six. Make sure you end up with someone who knows all of it and still loves you. A person you can tell your whole life to is a person worth spending a life with.


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