When Someone Changes For You

Do you know what's attractive?


When someone actually changes for you. 

it doesn't matter if it is small simple things such as they cut off their bad habits or they learnt to say please or thank you. Those small things are proves that they actually took notice of what you like or not comfortable off and when it comes to you, they are willing to to do anything. it's hard you know, to have someone who is willing to change to be a better person for you.

often we heard that "if they love you, they will change". but honestly, do you think it is that easy to get rid of a habit? (even if it is a bad one) you have to understand that you can't force someone to get rid of something that they are keen to do way before they even met you. let's take a cigarette for example. I mean come on, they know that poison first before they even met you. but, if you really can't stand the smell of it, keep a distance every time they lit one. trust me, they will keep note of it. a gentleman smoker always does. at least, they will skip it if they're going to meet you or avoid lighting it in front of you out of respect.

well that's habit.

what about attitude?

i mean, if they're hard headed. egoistic or even a temper. what does it takes for them to change? well honestly i don't really know but maybe. just maybe, they will try to control it in fear of losing you. 

people tend to change once they loose someone important. that's a fact. if they didn't change, maybe that someone is not important after all. you have a choice here. either to wait and let them realize it themselves or leave and make them realize what they should have change in order to keep you around.

is that all?

here's the thing. people tend to forgot the one last choice.

stay with them, tell them what they need to change and and help them through it.

it's called give and take, take note of that.

you get bored easily.

"You get bored easily",

that's what they say, 

dark, demon, and imagine dragons image

To them, i move on too easily, I put the phone down too fast, ignored the texts, reject the calls and move on to the next guy so simply. To them, i treat guys like they are flavour of the week. To them, i am the girl who leaves. 

But, I was the girl who stayed.

I was the girl who stayed even when things get rough. I was the girl who stayed even when the texts got lesser, the calls got short and rough, and the date nights no longer existent. I was the girl who stayed even when she knew she had a choice to walk away.

But I became the girl who leaves.

I became the girl who could care less the hearts she left behind, I became the one guy's text constantly, trying to make plans, and I dismiss them, one by one. I became the girl who doesn't give  a second thought to their feelings, rejecting them and leaving them. I became the girl who leaves. 

I wasn't always that kind of girl.

I used to be the girl who constantly gives second chances even when they don't deserve it. I used to be the girl who will take guys back if he would only just apologize. I used to be the girl who let her guard down so easily that just anyone could come in, say a few sweet words and have my heart handed over to them. I used to be that girl. I used to have my heart on my sleeve all the time, putting in so much time and effort into every relationship or almost-relationship even though it was not reciprocated. I constantly held on to faith and hope, trusting that things will somehow work itself out and I will have my happily ever after. 

But things don;t always happen that way.

With every heartbreak, I began to realize what i want, what I deserve. With every piece of my heart taken and thrown away, I began to build a wall around the pieces left to protect myself. Guard myself with walls so high no one can get around it. Locked my heart and throw the keys far away. I began to trust people less and was so sure that everyone who enters my life will eventually leaves, so I became the girl who leaves. And so I became the girl who leaves, before i'm left.

But hope that someday I'll meet someone who'll make me stay, this time, with him. 

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